Dwelling On Your Breakup Is Actually A Good Thing, According To New Study

Time is said to heal all wounds, but a new study suggests that the passing of days alone won’t restore your broken heart after a breakup: You need to talk about it — a lot.

It may seem counterintuitive, but parsing out the details of the split and how you’re feeling can actually restore your sense of self, according to Grace Larson, a graduate student in the Department of Psychology at Northwestern University and co-author of the study.

“When you enter into a romantic relationship, your self-concept becomes really intertwined with that loved one,” Larson told The Huffington Post. “One of the most powerful things that happens when you fall in love with someone is you start to feel like who you are is melding with who they are. I think that’s an incredibly painful process to have to reverse.”

Larson found that a great antidote for that identity-melding is talking about how you feel now that you’re no longer in the relationship. For her study, she took 210 young adults who had experienced a non-marital breakup within the last six months and divided them into two groups. The first group simply filled out a survey about their breakups at the —> Read More Here


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