Why Email May Actually Be A Great Way To Say ‘I Love You’

As a mode of communication, email gets a pretty bad rap.

It’s a common belief among psychologists and the general public that the further a form of communication gets from face-to-face interaction, the less effective and intimate it becomes.

“Excessive smartphone use drives us away from each other, and we only choose to communicate impersonally and for superficial matters,” one blogger lamented about texting and emailing.

But these concerns may be overblown. New research suggests that people actually use more expressive emotional language when communicating with their loved ones via email compared to speaking with them on the phone.

The Indiana University study found that when people are unable to pick up on subtle cues like tone of voice and body language to convey emotion, they tend to compensate by using more positive emotional content and thoughtful language.

“People are more explicit about romance when they write an email than when they leave a voicemail,” Dr. Alan Dennis, a business professor at the university and one of the study’s authors, told The Huffington Post in an email.

For the study, researchers analyzed the language used by 72 college students in emails and voicemails in which they were expressing affection towards their significant others.

The findings showed that when writing emails, the students used more emphatic language than they did in the voicemails. Crafting an email gives people the opportunity to think more deeply about a message and to be more conscious of the way they deliver it, the researchers explained.

Here’s an example of an email used in the study:

Subject: Hey beautiful


How are you today beautiful? Miss me? I miss you a lot. I hope to see you soon :)

I am looking forwards to seeing your beautiful face :) . I hope you haven’t —> Read More