You’re Probably Lying To Yourself About Your Relationship Status, Study Says
When it comes to ending relationships, nobody put it better than Neil Sedaka: “Breaking up is hard to do.” Thanks to a new study, we now know why the breakup process is so hard — when a relationship is going poorly, people waste a lot of time and energy lying to themselves about it.
Researchers from the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign asked a random sample of 464 participants to individually assess their relationship status — “casually dating,” “seriously dating,” “engaged” or “broken up” — as well as their level of commitment to their partners (their desire to marry them) once a month for nine months. Eligible participants were between the ages of 19 and 35, currently in heterosexual dating relationships and never married.
The researchers had a hunch that people don’t accurately remember the past, so during the last session, they asked participants to recall how committed they felt over the past eight months. That last month of data collection was where things got interesting.
People in bad relationships tend to wear rose-colored glasses when thinking about the past.
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